Love this. And sometimes secrets & boundaries overlap? I withheld a personal secret from the online world for a while (that I got engaged!) to keep it intimate. Inevitably it would be shared publicly…but I was surprised when some people in the offline world judged why I hadn’t brought it online yet - they saw it as a lack of celebration. When we’re so open online it can confused people when we keep secrets, maybe secrets need their own boundaries too.
oouuu YES, this is such a good point, and it's really interesting the way people tie our online presence to "joy signalling" when in reality, sometimes the most precious things are the ones we keep just to ourselves ♡
Love this. And sometimes secrets & boundaries overlap? I withheld a personal secret from the online world for a while (that I got engaged!) to keep it intimate. Inevitably it would be shared publicly…but I was surprised when some people in the offline world judged why I hadn’t brought it online yet - they saw it as a lack of celebration. When we’re so open online it can confused people when we keep secrets, maybe secrets need their own boundaries too.
oouuu YES, this is such a good point, and it's really interesting the way people tie our online presence to "joy signalling" when in reality, sometimes the most precious things are the ones we keep just to ourselves ♡
Yes and actually the fact it’s not online “yet” or ever is a signal of how precious the thing truly is to us! 💛
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I love this. And I have a secret right now….